Completely crushed my confidence and trust. He is posting shit on Facebook that makes you seem bad in comparison to his ex and is way too much information for anyone to have to read. Not only has he told you, the ex is better in bed, he has also told friends and relatives. The first time we had sex felt like a really bad cup of coffee, she says. It's an immature and insensitive thing to say. If yes, then I reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): A ), Winter believes its ultimately for the best. But one surefire way to kill the spark? "The Sun", "Sun", "Sun Online" are registered trademarks or trade names of News Group Newspapers Limited. Of course, if youre the one on the receiving end of this criticism, that kind of honesty can be hard to take. Apparently its a question many of us are asking: Type it into Google, and youll be hit with over three billion results. For more relationship stories, this woman thought she was being stood up by her Tinder date after he forgot his wallet but it was SO much worse. Either the dude is deliberately cutting you down, which is abusive, or his social skills are so bad as to be irredeemable Continue reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): A Guide his hands. DEAR DEIDRE:MY husband asked me an unexpected question six months ago which has caused an argument. seems like he miss his ex. It comes with the turf. Maybe it takes you a long time to orgasm and he cant last long enough to get you to that point. I couldnt sleep that night, and I went through a myriad of emotions while laying there. reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2012): A One of her friends asked how I compared to and old lover of hers, specifically a friend of hers that she still works with.In no uncertein terms she said that her ex( the coworker) was better than me in bed only because he had a much larger penis( I am average in every sense of the word in that department)but that that she thought I was terrfic in bed and wouldnt change anything except for maybe that one thing(my penis). Now, he probably isnt terrible. Telling your new partner that they don't compare to your ex. reader, CindyCares+, writes (26 December 2012): A A flame that burns that hot doesnt last., Maria, 31, from L.A., also struggles with ex, . Why would he awful. Man stabbed ex-girlfriend to death at Kings Mountain store, police say, (Source: Kings Mountain Police Department), Dad dies in house fire while trying to save family dogs, firefighters say, Woman accused of stabbing boyfriend for urinating in their bed after a night of drinking, Volunteer Fire Companies and Rescue Squads face ongoing struggles, Elkton rehires Greg Lunsford as Town Manager, Harrisonburg Planning Commission approves Bluestone Town Center with exceptions, Charlie Obaugh RV & Outdoor Student Athlete of the Week. I dont ask those types of things.I try not to be jealous although I am at times when she talks about her exs( which is rare). I took a glance at your posting history and really think that this guy is bad for you. Try harder? However, they were unlikely to actually be perfect: Interestingly, that former lover was most likely hot and cold, self-serving and avoidant. My boyfriend and his ex dated for four years, and though he has told me numerous times that they both knew it wasn't working, she was the one to ultimately end it, and he says that it's simply because he 'didn't want to be the one to give up on something he invested so much time into.' Its treacherous terrain. The problem is that now I feel extremely insecure and worried that I won't be 'as good'. A third overheard his fiance gush longingly about her ex-boyfriend, calling him a comparatively better lover. reader, xtbone151x+, writes (26 June 2013): A reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): A Login first The first thing you need to do is get over any embarrassment you may have surrounding sex and your sexual desires. Dont assume that just because he climaxes, hes had a really enjoyable experience. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., But earlier this year, Maria began seeing someone new, and although they get on well, the connection just isnt the same. So, make sure youre being authentic and only showing signs of pleasure that youre actually feeling, for both your sakes. Again, we absolutely understand why you are feeling worried about your own experience with it later on because you feel that your lack of experience will mean that sex will not be as great. Everything else with us had been so amazing. For other inquiries Contact Us. A third overheard his fiance gush longingly, about her ex-boyfriend, calling him a comparatively better lover. We have only had sex a handful of times since that encounter when it used to be two or three times a week. If you can't be with someone supportive and loving who treats you well then it's probably better to be alone for a while rather than with someone who tears you down. Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! He wrote: "She mentioned an ex of hers knew her body best and that he was the best sex shes had.". According to author and relationship expert, , its only natural to start thinking of them as a benchmark. Then I was humiliated. How do I move past my worry and insecurity with this? 105. a lot. reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): A The were laughing and sounding intoxicated, basically having fun.During the converstion I over heard them start talking about men and sex. Practice really does make perfect when it comes to sex. And that might sound harsh, but its ultimately the most empowering. Some people, like Clara, just think the best thing to do is ignore it. Bridestory Lastly, even if you are worried about your lack of 'skills' in bed this is something that can easily be dealt with right now to help you enjoy the experience as best as possible. Now, that doesnt mean hes necessarily the devil itself. Our likes and dislikes evolve and fluctuate, from day to day and from year to year. female I expressed that she was different, again, not better or worse.different. you should probably ask him to stop. ', "And she was kinda dismissive and just said 'yeah.'". All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft, Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column. female Other times, it slips out indirectly. No one wants to feel inadequate, and even if youre the most grounded person in the world, that pain is still going to sting. But again, how exactly do you deal with this situation? Not the sex itself. But, what you must understand is that sex does not in any way, shape or form rely on a person's experience with it. If yes, then I would read him the riot act, tell him it had better not happen again, and let it go. It comes with the turf. I just found out that my husband of 8 years has been Vent: Can the internet please be done slut shaming this cop, My boyfriend washed my clothes when I was super drunk. Naturally, the man has started panicking a bit and interpreted his girlfriend's comments as her saying he'll never compare. Shed left her emotionally abusive ex, secured a prestigious job and moved into a brand new apartment in a leafy suburb of London. We were probably still in the honeymoon period when he called me by his ex-girlfriend's name during sex. Her boyfriend has had serious relationships before her, so she thinks that perhaps shes struggling with insecurity since this is her first real relationship in contrast. And thatll leave you in a tricky situation, as having to explain to your boyfriend that youve only been faking sexual pleasure all along is going to be a very uncomfortable situation. Seems like a red flag if I ever saw one. And it felt amazing., Maria, 31, from L.A., also struggles with ex nostalgia. If hes still caught up on his ex, thats his problem and he shouldnt be This is where they realized I was there. I 've been with my boyfriend for 11 months. Or is communication just an overrated conspiracy, and should we all remain oblivious of our coital flaws? co-worker, fiance, her ex, insecure, jealous, wedding. Because of all the posts Ive been seeing I asked my Doctors say men are getting more vasectomies amid After Man Kills His Wife, Mother-in-Law, Five Children Press J to jump to the feed. 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. A lot of these come from open forum sites like. Agreed, this is something that should stay between the two of you unless otherwise discussed. He doesnt yet realize that he has to adapt to the things you like because sex isnt one-size-fits-all. Another redditor. Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays. This is beyond being honest. First of all, lets have a look at a few reasons why your boyfriend might not currently be a good lover. Can you handle knowing that you may never compare to a mysterious, faceless former lover? We absolutely understand why you are a bit shocked and feel uncomfortable having been told that bit of information. Its working for Maria, who is also still with her girlfriend, I told her that I faked an orgasm with her when we first started going out, she says. So this works for me. This issue needs to be dealt with in a healthy, constructive way. Sex is only great when its immensely pleasurable for both people involved, so by doing your bit to give him the pleasure he likes, hell be more inclined to put the extra effort in to giving you the please you like. WebA husband of a few months or years probably doesnt have the same amount of time invested in that exploration yet. So, although what he said was a bit T.M.I. If you cant overcome your embarrassment and communicate with your boyfriend about sex openly and honestly then things between you are never going to improve sexually. She spends her free time hiking, exploring, eating vegan tapas and volunteering for a local dog shelter. 1 I mistakenly told my husband my ex was better in bed Credit: Getty Images - Getty Get in touch with Deidre today My team and I are working safely from home but we reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): A I am so heartbroken. That definitely would hurt anyone to hear those words come out of their partners mouth! After all, as per the New York Post, guys who rock your room dont make great grooms. Likewise, in the movie Trainwreck, the best-sex-of-your-life-guy is the creepy guy. I care about sex, but Im also fully aware of how crazy I was with my ex, she says, with an air of resignation. that his partner had been posting publicly on a womans homemaking forum about an Italian guy with the thickest penis she [had] ever been with (it gave her jello legs). Have you talked with him specifically about which skills in bed that you can work on, in a respectful way, and come up with a plan? Youd get the ick. Do not worry too much about your partner's past. This is hurtful. Given how common it seems to be, there isnt really a clear answer. female No, thank you. He is lovely and tells me how much he loves me everyday and says that Im the love of his life, and I feel the same way. Especially if theyve only had a few partners, or just one partner with whom they had a long-term relationship. I have been insecure with my body since I had my daughter. The main reason he might not be that great in bed is because he lacks sexual experience in general. He wrote: "She mentioned an ex of hers knew her body best and that he was the best sex shes had.". reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): A Even if bad sex isnt a dealbreaker for you, honesty will only serve to bring you closer and the more upfront you are, the more likely the problem is to be fixed. Because he might not have had all that much actual sex if hes never had long-term relationships that meant he was having sex with the same person regularly. If you feel awkward about being physical with your partner or expressing your sexuality in any way, that will hinder the likelihood of you enjoying sex with your partner more than your 'lack of experience' will. Hello everyone,sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently.I have just recently come back from Europe where I asked my FI to marry me. There are plenty of dejected discussions on Reddit of people who have been told theyre disappointing in bed or , . Sometimes, this news is broken bluntly and without fear (one redditor. I saw this was upsetting her so I just stopped this converstion and told her that i just felt humiliated at the time and should not have to apologize for liking what she likes.I have not brought it up since, there is no point. There are plenty of things you can do to help your boyfriend be a better lover for you and make sure that both of you are fulfilled by your sex life. Also keep in mind that the ex is an ex for a reason. My self esteem is shot. Still not sure what to do about your boyfriends lacking bedroom performances? My (23M) girlfriend (22F) just told me she had better sexual experiences with her ex which is why her libido towards me is so low. Chip Chick Just before we began seeing each other, she had gotten out of a pretty serious relationship. Its not all just egotistical banter. Starting to suspect men built this preoccupation around creepy food delivery guy keeps calling me. The thing that prompted this post is, even though he has told me before, I was scrolling FB just now and saw a post saying "describe one thing your ex was good at" and he responded with "sex. At first, he thought it had gone pretty well - especially when she said she'd finished three times and had one of the best orgasms of her life. ", Another added: "She had absolutely no reason to say that, or bring up sex with her ex at all. ), Winter believes its ultimately for the best. Just.wtf?! BUT this is one thing I would never say to her. January 29, 2022, 6:21 pm. Should you give up? after his girlfriend complained about his size, before declaring that the sex in her previous relationship had been way better). The sex isnt as bad as it was, by a long shot, she continues. They say there was an argument between the victim and the suspect, and moments later, the stabbing happened. , The unbridled wildness of your partners ex may have been out-of-control, and ultimately, destructive to the relationship., Besides, she adds, its important to remember that no ones perfect. For further details of our complaints policy and to make a complaint please click this link: thesun.co.uk/editorial-complaints/, Sharing his dilemma on Reddit, the 19-year-old explained how he's been seeing his partner for about a month and they just consummated their relationship, I let my mum sleep with my husband a couple of times a week, people call us sick and twisted but I dont mind, GET A 5 FREE BONUS WITH NO DEPOSIT REQUIRED, woman thought she was being stood up by her Tinder date after he forgot his wallet, her mum confessed to being in love with her fiance, woman blasted her bridezilla sister who didnt invite her disabled husband to her wedding, Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO). To inquire about a licence to reproduce material, visit our Syndication site. Wives aren't judged by only their ability to have sex, and he seems to be simplifying one element of your relationship down to this. My question is, if a guy admits he's had better but still enjoys the sex for all it's fun, will he stay?I'm wondering if it's enough tobkerpnhim. Why even say anything? Make the first move. If you have to schedule it because of work or other commitments, do it. For other inquiries, Contact Us. Were always going to have that one perfect tango partner, she explains. Words have their limits. Other than this one transgression, is he a good husband? The next morning over breakfast she brought up what she said and apologized for it. reader, JustHelpinAgain+, writes (1 November 2012): A If there are problems in your sex life, it might not really be your boyfriends skills as a lover that are the problem. I imagine a great many people have that one wow person from their past, but you don't post about it on facebook for your wife/husband, friends, and other family to read. So, what do you do when your partner isnt the best sex youve ever had? Winter doesnt condone this approach, and instead believes that the subject needs to be brought up tactfully. I couldnt sleep that night, and I went through a myriad of emotions while laying there. I'm embarrased to even elaborate but I know I had great feedback before. male I would be furious! Dont expect him to magically know what you want by telepathy. Sex should be fun and is a wonderful way to bring you closer to your partner, so make it a priority. Take a bath in liquid Viagra? ), In many scenarios, the blame tends to fall on an ex a mythical past figure who probably gave you the most intense orgasms of your life, but who was entirely unsuitable in almost every other way. We should learn that some things are better left unspokensuch as having an ex that banged like a shit house door and not very classy, posting online for everyone to read that he liked the sex skills of his former partner. Its easy for life to get in the way and for sexual and emotional quality time with your partner to go out of the window, especially once youve been together for a while or youve moved in together. Posts are moderated for respect, equanimity, grace, and relevance. reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): A The weighted average of your qualities should offset any lingering insecurities.. But you dont just have to sit back and hope the situation will sort itself out in time. Send an email to problems@deardeidre.org. If something isnt enough, then it wont do. reader, CindyCares+, writes (31 October 2012): A He has told me and other people this. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Do I care how she got that way way, sexually speaking? A flame that burns that hot doesnt last., This was certainly the case for Clara, who left her previous partner after three years of gaslighting, screaming fights and mind-blowing sex. I'd say this issue needs couples counseling, as it's better to have a mediator at this point. WebThe reason you think sex with your ex was better is because youre not taking responsibility for your sex life and your relationship right now. The passion that your mate thought was so exciting may have been volatile and chaotic, she hypothesizes. All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft, Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column. Am I right to be hurt? View related questions: Here's what men would love more women to do in bed. reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): A Think about whether other issues in your relationship, like a lack of trust or a fear of commitment or being vulnerable with each other might be coming between you in the bedroom. Sadly, in western society, a mans pleasure during sex is still sometimes seen as an essential, and a womans as an optional bonus. The sex, at first, was totally catastrophic, Clara, a pseudonym, tells me over a WhatsApp video call, her eyes glazing over. And, seem to agree that being told youre second best is ultimately unforgivable. This page contains affiliate links. A great way of doing this is having a sexy night in. female My ex told me that making me orgasm was too difficult. It doesnt work like that. Now its time to think about what you can do to change things so that you both enjoy sex. But one surefire way to kill the spark? Just because your partner happened to have had a great experience with his ex does not mean he will not experience something as good or even better with you. They all laughed at this which in turn made me feel sick to my stomach.Ufortuatley I had to urinate at this poit and got up to use the restroom. Especially to begin with, as hes probably trying really hard to please you. One replied: "She seems to lack empathy and may still be hung up on her ex. ", Meanwhile, a third wrote: "Even if it were true, things like this should just remain unsaid.". I dont care how many men she has been with. Plus this woman blasted her bridezilla sister who didnt invite her disabled husband to her wedding she didnt want wheelchair to ruin the photos. You may provide consistency and fidelity. My ex-girlfriend was experienced, understood my body language and was open to different stuff sexually, she writes over Reddit DM. Because if you fake it, then hell logically assume that you liked whatever he was doing. If he was talking in private to a friend or a sibling, I'd say it's personal and not the biggest deal. First of all, yikes! The passion that your mate thought was so exciting may have been volatile and chaotic, she hypothesizes. Do I really want to be out-of-control like that again? reader, Honeypie+, writes (31 October 2012): A I know the chances of me being the best lover she's ever had were maybe fifty percent at best just for the reason she is so incredibly attractive, she could have her pick of men , so the idea that I was better than all of them was wishful thinking at best. Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! Naturally, the man has started panicking a bit and interpreted his girlfriend's comments as her saying he'll never compare. Still not sure what to do about your boyfriends lacking bedroom performances? Simply, 10 Big Differences Between Making Love And Having Sex, 9 Tips For Couples Whose Sex Drives Are Mismatched, We Dont Have Sex Anymore 10 Reasons Why And Advice For Each. WebThe issue between me and his ex is resolved but I do still think she is better than me. I would consider couples counselling. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? reader, kirra07+, writes (31 October 2012): A Another redditor found out that his partner had been posting publicly on a womans homemaking forum about an Italian guy with the thickest penis she [had] ever been with (it gave her jello legs). Everything was perfect. from relationship_advice, Other times, it slips out indirectly. Anyone with information on his whereabouts is asked to call Kings Mountain Police at (704) 734-0444 or Cleveland County Crime Stoppers at (704) 481-TIPS. He said: Out of everyone youve had sex with, who was the best?. KINGS MOUNTAIN, N.C. (WBTV) Police are looking for the man they say stabbed his ex-girlfriend to death at a Kings Mountain convenience store Tuesday night. Were always going to have that one perfect tango partner, she explains. Secondly, the act of sex is an extremely personal and subjective experience that to try and predict whether someone will be 'good at it' or not is close to impossible. Or is communication just an overrated conspiracy, and should we all remain oblivious of our coital flaws? I asked him about it finally tonight because Even if I thought it was true, some things just shouldn't be said if you ask me. Another added: "She had absolutely no reason to say that, or bring up sex with her ex at all. I mean I appreciate the honesty, but why tell other people? Then I was humiliated. Now, you might be tempted to fake it if youre with someone and you know its going to be a one-time thing. 4 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Is Bad In Bed First of all, lets have a look at a few reasons why your boyfriend might not currently be a good lover. Taylor Dunham, explained that she had just worked an intense 16-hour shift and her only intention was to go straight to sleep when she got home. He admitted that his first girlfriend was better than me and one other but that I'm "very good". For her, the answer lies in trying to find validation outside of the bedroom, and to stop mythologizing any former lovers. Frankly, I would question why OP's husband would be discussing an ex at all, especially after 4 years of marriage. ', "And she was kinda dismissive and just said 'yeah.'". ), In many scenarios, the blame tends to fall on an ex a mythical past figure who probably gave you the most intense orgasms of your life, but who was entirely unsuitable in almost every other way. It's crass. Chat online to a relationship expert from Relationship Hero who can help you figure things out. (throw out the whole girl, would rather die, etc. You need to practice! It is actually not unusual for people to move from an ex to another partner, only to find out that no matter how great the new partner is, they just cant match up to 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. She insists it is over and that she has no feelings for him. And that is something that cannot be known until you both actually experience making love for the first time. Again, we absolutely understand why you are feeling worried about your own experience with it later on because you feel that your lack of experience will mean that sex will not be as great. The unbridled wildness of your partners ex may have been out-of-control, and ultimately, destructive to the relationship., Besides, she adds, its important to remember that no ones perfect. female Because otherwise, you deserve better. Then she quickly stated that it doesn't mean anything to her, that I am a wonderful lover and that she would never stay in a relationship much less marry someone that did not satisfy her in bed.She began cry and started to tell me how the emotion she has during our lovemaking is stronger than anything she has ever felt. Touch him and show how irresistible he is to you to bring back the spark. reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): A If you stay with him, you're, in effect, saying, "It's acceptable for you to treat me badly." He prodded her body clumsily, jerked around erratically while inside her and made strange chimp-like expressions as he came to climax. Hopefully youve managed to put your finger on what the problem is. A lot of these come from open forum sites like Quora or Reddit, with people of all genders loudly asking for advice about their lackluster love lives. It is never nice hearing about your partner's past relationships let alone hearing about the details of his sexual past. I have never been single or had problems getting dates. Other than this one transgression, is he a good husband? The weighted average of your qualities should offset any lingering insecurities., Its a theory that might not work for everyone, but Clara seems content with it. 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